I’ve always wondered why Parents, particularly mothers, advise their male sons to marry a lady that is 10 years or younger.
Back when I was 25 when this discussion came up, my comeback was, Ahan naa. That’s child abuse naa, how will I marry a 15-year-old. And each year I grew older, the conversation came up again and again. So they (mothers) changed it to 8 years or more. Now that I am reaching that 30s. I can’t use it as a come back any more.😑😤
So I got me thinking, why do parents(mothers) keep saying marry a girl that is much younger than you are?
I figured it out. I’m not saying this is an actual science, it’s not. This is just an idea.
You’ve probably heard the saying that girls mature at a younger age compared to boys, and this is a science. There’s research out there to prove that. Girls are usually hit with adulthood responsibilities at a tender age. Puberty, growth in particular parts of the body, the whole shebang that sort of “forces” girls to become aware and act or behave like an adult. This is one scenario, there’s also mental growth et al.
So you have cases where an 18-year-old girl is more matured than a 22-year-old. I don’t mean to belittle the boys either, they do catch up in maturity. Once a boy becomes a man, in most cases, it’s like the child in them has been murdered. Gone! Like the child never existed. Men are taught to not cry, not show emotion and be a man. We become money chasers, we chase success as though failing belittled you as a man. We avoid taking risks that have a chance of failure. I have to pay that bill, this bill, that tuition, that brand new car(that you probably don’t need), this, that and those. Success! Success!! Success!!! Be a man!
But we forget to be a child. Like we once were.
See, a child will always take a chance at anything. It doesn’t matter to a child what the risk or the odds are if they don’t know, they’ll have a go.
So I managed to reconnect this child like behavior to girls. Younger girls are matured but most importantly they are still young. Adulthood hits girls at a young age. So when they get matured and are of age, they want to feel, and act childlike. This is not generally the case. But it’s common.
Maybe, just maybe fellas, your mother asking you to marry a younger lady is with the hope that she might bring out the child-like behavior in you.
To make you have a go at anything without the societally imposed norms. Maybe, maybe I am wrong.
This isn’t science. 😀
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